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First Time Phone Sex

First time phone sex is… Exhilarating! Fun. Secretive. Naughty. Maybe a little scary… And very…rewarding!

And, let me say straight off, that the absolute best thing about phone sex (in my opinion) is the lush, excitingly dirty array of possibilities it lays, so alluring, before us. Be anyone. Try anything. Imagine everything exactly the way you need/want it to be! Within the world of phone sex, we explore the depths of arousal, kinks and fantasy. We are limited by no more than our individual imaginations and personal preferences.

I still remember the intense thrill of encouraging and experiencing phone sex with my boyfriends, as a teenager. So often, more exciting and fulfilling than the real life act. The human mind has, after all, always provided the epitome of aphrodisiacal fruit!

I remember being too shy to ask my boyfriends to say the things I wanted most to hear, from them. I also remember though, the intense reaction of my body when they would at last find the courage to tell me all the dirty, naughty, sexy, TEASING things they wanted to do to my body. I was relentless in creatively finding ways to coax and inspire them to “open up” to me about their desires… I couldn’t get enough of those dirty, wicked conversations! I remember brushing inexperienced fingers over the wet spot on my panties, while I listened with rapt attention, wanting, yearning, and every part of my body gone electric with desire. Even now, remembering those daring, late-night phone calls, their tentative exploration–so delicious to an inexperienced teen girl–is making me wet! Such simple things too, back then… I remember how it would light my body on fire when a boy told me, in husky, excited tones, that he wanted to pull my shirt off, unclasp my bra, and take my nipples between his lips. How he hoped I might wear a skirt to the movies with him, so that he could easily slip his hand beneath it to play with me in the dark theater. I remember how it would make me pant and moan to hear him talk about sliding his fingers inside me for the first time, and whisper about how badly he wanted to taste me. I remember the thrill of those blunt and brazen statements, like “I want to fuck you so deep and hard!” or “Oh my god, Vanessa–I want to be inside you so badly right now–I could just cum in my pants, thinking about it!”. Not so taboo, by more mature standards, but when you are a teen girl speaking in hushed tones over the phone, to an equally excited boy (whom your parents wouldn’t allow you to be left alone, behind closed doors with) it was ALL the allure of the forbidden, and more!

First-time phone sex is quite simply a sexual delicacy for which I can only be thankful! The act of phone sex is still one of my favorite activities today, and my memories of those first times, are enough to get my blood pumping even now.

As a phone sex operator, the experience takes on a new level of excitement; encountering strangers and varying pallets of desire. I will admit that I still feel a touch of nervousness when the phone rings… I’ve been told, by a few of my regular callers, that nervousness occurs on both sides. While I don’t feel that I am someone that anyone should feel nervous about speaking with, I will admit that those nerves can add an extra spice to the experience, of its own.

Are you considering a first-time phone sex experience? Perhaps the first time with a new lover, or maybe the first time with a phone sex operator, like myself… Well, the first thing you need to know is that there are no hard and fast rules… There are endless ways to begin that conversation and even more possibilities for its continuation and that explosive finale. Communication is obviously key. Phone sex would be impossible without it!

It can start with a casual mention of wanting. Or, by reciting a sexy story first, to get the juices flowing… Perhaps a suggestion of role-play, of other professions, costumes or characters. One of the easiest ways to initiate phone sex is to share a fantasy. There really are endless options…

Now, if you are thinking about first-time phone sex with a PSO or phone sex operator, there are perhaps a few basic niceties to keep in mind…

First, always take the time to familiarize yourself with your chosen operators website. Our websites contain vital information. Such as our limits and boundaries, our specialties and preferences, our times of availability, our individual rates, options and methods of payment, notes and bios to acquaint you with our individual personalities, and much more…

When you are contacting individual operators, it is important to realize that we are human. In other words, we are not awake and available 24 hours a day! We need to take time for ourselves, to rest, to bathe, to cook, and many of us have families who need us, at times–times when we can’t drop everything to run for the phone. So, look for our indicators to tell you if we are available. Many of us can make ourselves available with a quick email notification to let us know that you want us… And, don’t assume that texting will reach us. Many PSO’s use landlines to ensure a clear call. Land lines don’t generally accept texts, unless your girl is using a service such as Google Voice.

Once you’ve established that your lady is available and eagerly waiting to be swept off her feet (and directly into your bed!), the next thing to tackle is payment.

While many girls still accept credit card payments over the phone, many are also beginning to switch to online payments, only. Online payments provide more security to yourself, help the girls to avoid chargebacks and unfortunate penalty fees, and also help us to keep our prices reasonable because we don’t have so many credit card fees to deal with. Online payment is a very good thing! Only very rarely will a girl accept PayPal. PayPal is not particularly friendly to the adult industry… Particularly when it comes to the sex trade. It also provides no privacy for either party. I do not recommend asking your PSO to accept PayPal.

So, follow her website instructions to pay online, or phone your girl and give her your credit card information (provided she takes payment that way). Her page/website should tell you how she charges for time. Many girls charge for “blocks” of time. In other words, if you expect that you will only need 10 minutes to reach heaven, then you will pay for a 10 minute block of time. If you want to go slow, explore, and have all the time in the world to ravish your baby thoroughly, you might choose to pay for a 1-hour block of time.

There are some phone sex services which will allow you to pay per minute. Whether or not this saves you money, depends… Personally, I only charge for the phone sex portion of the conversation, itself. I don’t charge for questions or other “get to know you” conversation which excludes sexual content. Girls who charge per minute directly, from the moment they accept your call, often charge for the entire conversation, including your questions and other polite conversation. These girls are often motivated to keep you on the phone as long as they possibly can, so that the meter keeps running. Whereas, girls who charge for a block of time, tend to be more mindful of your designated schedule. In my experience, it typically costs callers less when they pay for blocks, because of these things. it also means you aren’t going to keep running up your bill if you don’t properly hang up your phone or initiate a pocket dial.

From this point on, all the really fun stuff starts! Once you are settled up on your payment, you can snuggle in with your phone sex kitten and really start to make her purr! And, believe me, no one purrs like a phone sex operator!

I, personally, love to be a caller’s first time phone sex experience! I love it! I love the opportunity to make a caller feel comfortable and wanted. To answer their questions… and maybe even make them blush. I love their wonder and appreciation at the excitement of their first time phone sex experience.

Again, remembering my own first-time phone sex experiences, it thrills me to share that exhilaration with others!

Have I answered your questions about first-time phone sex? If not, please feel free to contact me! I would love to hear from you and to have the opportunity to tell you anything else you might wish to know. Also, don’t hesitate to contact me to schedule your own first time phone sex session!

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Payment Obstacles, Anonymity & Bitcoin

Allow me to begin by saying that, while this blog post is about payments, in general, on adult websites, I have an agenda to put an emphasis on paying with Bitcoin and cryptocurrencies. I want to hear your feedback on this subject, either in reply to this blog entry or directly, by email.

Payments on adult sites (in this case, for phone sex services) can be tricky. Credit cards leave trails, though they may be discrete. They come with fees, red tape and weighty regulations. These can affect both merchant and buyer in a variety of ways, and they carry the risk of chargebacks for the merchant. Chargebacks result in long-term consequences which affect both the client and the merchant. A Popular and common solution, are Visa/MasterCard gift cards, which give back anonymity and are slightly easier to use as they are not directly associated with a specific address or name, but still many find them lacking in expediency at checkout.

After all, when you’re in the mood… you want checkout to be fast!

Sites such as PayPal, are strictly against being used on adult sites. Were you to use PayPal on my own PSO site, and were PayPal to discover this, they would shut down my account posthaste and keep any currency I might presently have stored on their website. Additionally, PayPal offers no anonymity, no privacy, to either side. All personal information is displayed readily. I don’t want this for myself or for my clients.

Many other payment services are lacking in privacy. Many leave  susceptible to fraud.

I’ve been offered payments by direct bank wire, Western Union, PayPal, and a variety of other sources… As I’m sure you can well imagine! Many of these payment options put my own safety and personal information in jeopardy. Which, obviously, is one of the biggest reasons why I don’t accept them.

Now, moving on to the subject of Bitcoin…

Over the past decade, a new form of currency has been created and nurtured. Cryptocurrencies (encrypted currencies)–primarily Bitcoin–are an exciting, confusing, mostly-anonymous, and expedient means of payment. It comes with its own risks and rewards. It also requires a solid, basic understanding in order to use it properly. That said, it could possibly be the most ideal form of payment on adult websites such as my own. In the past, taking Bitcoin as payment on PSO sites, has failed, primarily due to a lack of understanding. Now that the word ‘Bitcoin’ is becoming more commonplace in society, it might be time to try again…

I want to know what you think! I want to read comments and thoughts, and I want those of you who might be interested in playing with Bitcoin, to do some research and draw your own personal conclusions. Personally, I am a big fan of Bitcoin! But when it comes to a person’s own finances, each of us needs to draw their own conclusions. Hence, take their own risks. I am going to include links in this blog to some potentially helpful sources of information. Feel free to go further however.

I appreciate my readers and my clients, and I want to thank you for taking the time to read this blog entry. I hope to hear from some of you!

One last comment on my part… Even if you have no interest in purchasing phone sex sessions, or any interest in cryptocurrency investments, I still encourage you to dip your toe in the water and learn! This is fascinating stuff! And it has the potential to be a big game changer for the financial workings of our global community. We live in a time of big changes, which happen fast. Don’t hesitate to stay well-informed.


A few places to start…

– Here is an example of using Bitcoin & the Bitpay Wallet:

 How to Use a Bitcoin Wallet – Bitpay

– Begin obtaining a well-rounded understanding of the basics…start from the beginning!

Bitcoin Basics (Part One)

– Want more background information? Varying perspectives?

The Bitcoin Phenomenon