Written by Vanessa Raqs
Written by Vanessa Raqs
Some think it’s odd that I list Etsy as one of my preferred gift card links in my website’s sidebar. After all, the Etsy marketplace is known for its crafts and artists. Not lingerie, bondage, or fetishes…right? However, stop to consider the wide variety of products this “crafter’s market” entails!
Are you looking for a sexy gift, for someone special? Know someone who has a perfume fetish? And, speaking of fetishes… You can indulge nearly any fetish you can think of, at the Etsy marketplace!
Try a search for “Sexy lingerie”, “Lace masquerade mask”, “Burlesque”, “Lace lingerie”, “Leather lingerie”, “Victorian corset”, “Romantic perfumes”, “Bondage”… The options are limitless and offer a wide range of prices. Look for glowing reviews from sellers and keep in mind that many sellers also offer the option for customized buying. In other words, if you find something close to what you want, contact the seller and see if they can’t get it just a bit closer to your goal.
Your special someone will appreciate handmade, artisan, unique gifts. Not every sexy thing has to come from Victoria’s Secret.
And… When in doubt, buy a gift card! If there is one thing that a woman loves as much as, if not more than, receiving gifts, it’s shopping! Spoil your sexy lady and she will spoil you right back.
Getting naughty with Vanessa…
“What do you like?”, “How would you like to get naughty?”
These are questions which I get asked often, in calls. It still touches me that, while paying for a session, you guys still want to know what you can do to turn me on!
First off…your excitement is most important to me. Knowing that I am hitting the right “buttons” excites me… I get wet knowing that you’re turned on by me, by the naughty things I’m doing and saying. I have found myself getting very hot over things that I’d never have expected would turn me on, simply because the guy I’m playing with, is so into it! I can’t say it enough–if you’re loving it, then I’m getting off on it too!
As for my personal kinks, turn-on’s, favorite roles, and go-to masturbation fantasies…
I love to be dominated!! When a man tells me how he wants to hold me down, tie me up, and make me take it, however and wherever he wants to give it to me…my body turns to lava and I get wet, fast! I’m getting wet right now, just writing about it!
I love to fantasize about being the teen babysitter, schoolgirl or cheerleader… Being seduced by the older neighbor or, hell, the entire college football team!
Yep, these are the kinds of things that this naughty housewife daydreams about, while she’s home alone, taking breaks from her chores…
And…I really love anal sex! Some of my best, most intense orgasms have happened during anal sex, while I use a favorite vibrator on my clit. We are talking scream-inducing, uncontrolled climaxes, here–tell me you’re going to make me take it all, up my tight, sexy ass, and listen to me lose control!
Oral? Oh, yes! On you? Yes please!! I can’t tell you how many times I’ve made myself cum, masturbating to the thought of a man gripping my hair, to hold me in place, while he cums in my mouth or all over my face!
I respond very well to passionate scenarios… The more you want me, the more you want to do dirty, naughty things to me…the more responsive and excited I am going to get.
As you have likely already realized, I also really love toys… Vibrators, dildos, Benewah balls…did I mention vibrators? I really love vibrators… There is one next to me, right now, which is looking extremely tempting, while I write this!
Despite being primarily submissive, I have been surprised often, by how turned on I get by the idea of tying someone else up. Of making you endure my will. I must even admit to experiencing an adrenaline rush from being sexually dominant and even cruel. I am most comfortable in a submissive role but I suppose we all have the capacity to get high off of power. I am no exception.
Being a PSO (phone sex operator), I expect that it should come as no surprise when I tell you that money turns me on, also. I even love to read about courtesans, geisha, and other professions like my own throughout history. The thought of a man giving me cash so that he can take his release with me, is hot! I mean, REALLY! Hot!
Heard enough about what I like best? Okay…
I am also quite good with role-play. I am intelligent, articulate and skilled with storytelling. I enjoy being a new character. I am very comfortable with make-believe. My vivid imagination and well-developed inner eye, will put me right there in the fantasy with you! Want me to be someone in particular? Want to fulfill an elaborate fantasy which is unobtainable in our daily mundane lives? Want to try something new, naughty and daring, in a safe manner? I am very willing to help you with that…
I enjoy mutual masturbation, masturbation instruction, telling you what I am doing to myself or what I would like to be doing to you…
I adore the girlfriend experience! I am sweet, affectionate, romantic, extremely appreciative of being spoiled, eager to please and I love to build a bonded relationship with my guy.
I’ve tried many new things, since becoming a PSO. It has been my aim to push my own boundaries, explore new things… Everyone has limits, of course, but I try to take my own with a grain of salt. When it comes to trying anything truly new or uncomfortable, I gain courage from information. The more I know, the better I can settle into the role. If you are unsure about my ability to take on whatever it is you have in mind, don’t hesitate to contact me. I’m very easy to talk to. I am sweet, caring and encouraging. I don’t bite… Unless asked to! And, when I do, be assured that I enjoy it!!
So…what are you looking for?
Allow me to begin by saying that, while this blog post is about payments, in general, on adult websites, I have an agenda to put an emphasis on paying with Bitcoin and cryptocurrencies. I want to hear your feedback on this subject, either in reply to this blog entry or directly, by email.
Payments on adult sites (in this case, for phone sex services) can be tricky. Credit cards leave trails, though they may be discrete. They come with fees, red tape and weighty regulations. These can affect both merchant and buyer in a variety of ways, and they carry the risk of chargebacks for the merchant. Chargebacks result in long-term consequences which affect both the client and the merchant. A Popular and common solution, are Visa/MasterCard gift cards, which give back anonymity and are slightly easier to use as they are not directly associated with a specific address or name, but still many find them lacking in expediency at checkout.
After all, when you’re in the mood… you want checkout to be fast!
Sites such as PayPal, are strictly against being used on adult sites. Were you to use PayPal on my own PSO site, and were PayPal to discover this, they would shut down my account posthaste and keep any currency I might presently have stored on their website. Additionally, PayPal offers no anonymity, no privacy, to either side. All personal information is displayed readily. I don’t want this for myself or for my clients.
Many other payment services are lacking in privacy. Many leave susceptible to fraud.
I’ve been offered payments by direct bank wire, Western Union, PayPal, and a variety of other sources… As I’m sure you can well imagine! Many of these payment options put my own safety and personal information in jeopardy. Which, obviously, is one of the biggest reasons why I don’t accept them.
Now, moving on to the subject of Bitcoin…
Over the past decade, a new form of currency has been created and nurtured. Cryptocurrencies (encrypted currencies)–primarily Bitcoin–are an exciting, confusing, mostly-anonymous, and expedient means of payment. It comes with its own risks and rewards. It also requires a solid, basic understanding in order to use it properly. That said, it could possibly be the most ideal form of payment on adult websites such as my own. In the past, taking Bitcoin as payment on PSO sites, has failed, primarily due to a lack of understanding. Now that the word ‘Bitcoin’ is becoming more commonplace in society, it might be time to try again…
I want to know what you think! I want to read comments and thoughts, and I want those of you who might be interested in playing with Bitcoin, to do some research and draw your own personal conclusions. Personally, I am a big fan of Bitcoin! But when it comes to a person’s own finances, each of us needs to draw their own conclusions. Hence, take their own risks. I am going to include links in this blog to some potentially helpful sources of information. Feel free to go further however.
I appreciate my readers and my clients, and I want to thank you for taking the time to read this blog entry. I hope to hear from some of you!
One last comment on my part… Even if you have no interest in purchasing phone sex sessions, or any interest in cryptocurrency investments, I still encourage you to dip your toe in the water and learn! This is fascinating stuff! And it has the potential to be a big game changer for the financial workings of our global community. We live in a time of big changes, which happen fast. Don’t hesitate to stay well-informed.
A few places to start…
– Here is an example of using Bitcoin & the Bitpay Wallet:
– Begin obtaining a well-rounded understanding of the basics…start from the beginning!
– Want more background information? Varying perspectives?
Written by Vanessa Raqs
The first thing you need to know about how to have a phone sex session, is that I want you to enjoy yourself. Through my own sexual experiences and the life I’ve lived, I realize that every individual on this big planet, is unique in their sexual tastes. I don’t expect you to fall into any one category when you call.
I also don’t always expect you to know exactly what you want.
That said, relax! Or, try to. It’s alright to be nervous too… I understand well, what that’s like.
Phone sex sessions are about having fun together, sharing excitement, and exploring. Maybe it’s even about laughter, sharing secrets, and getting to know one another. For some, phone sex is, itself, is a fetish For some, it is therapeutic. For others, phone sex with an operator can even be downright necessary, based on your lifestyle, physiology, proclivities, etc. Some of us simply have extremely vivid imaginations and therefore find phone sex to be more fulfilling than other sexual experiences (stimulated mind…stimulated body). Whatever the case, or your unique situation/tastes, I am here for you. To be yours.
Learning about all of our individual kinks & turn-ons, can take a lifetime.
Or maybe what you are looking for is just somebody to talk to & feel close to. A session can be about any kind of intimacy, it doesn’t always have to be about sex…
The number one element to an extremely successful phone sex session, is communication. Be vocal! Whether that means moaning when I say or do something you like, or directly telling me what it is you need. Whatever the case…open your mouth and let it fly!
Personally, I really do get most excited, when I hear how excited you are. Please don’t be shy! I want to know you’re having a good time too, with me. If you aren’t, I want to know how to change that. Like I said, everyone is different. it is my job to pay attention to you, to respond to your pleasure and reactions, and to tailor your session to fulfil your needs. I love this part of my job. I love satisfying my partner…finding that perfect sweet spot and playing with it until you explode for me. I love knowing that I am providing you with a stimulating experience, meant just for you.
If it is important to you to know what it is that turns me on, I suggest you read my Erotica. I have yet to write an erotica short story which did not result in my repeatedly taking breaks to spend quality time with my favorite vibrator. I write about what turns me on!
Remember, our sessions are between you and me… The awesome thing about phone sex is… It’s all fantasy! It’s all exploratory. And it’s all safe. This is where you can explore the things that you might not feel comfortable exploring otherwise. Or perhaps, those things which you simply can’t explore otherwise. Phone sex is generally a safe zone. So let’s play!
Are there some subjects which I am less comfortable with than others or unfamiliar with? Of course! I am human, after all… But I’m always open to communication, experimenting and trying new things. You can always send me an email. I regularly communicate with my clients, or prospective clients, through email. We can email back-and-forth until you feel comfortable with calling me.
If you aren’t entirely sure what it is you need from me, more exploration is necessary. In these cases, scheduling a longer session time. It can be really helpful! We can try many different things and see what you respond to. If you are a regular caller, we can learn more, and more about one another over time. I make it my priority to pay attention and to learn from each session we share together.
Phone sex with an operator can be an exciting, safe, non-committal “play date” to explore what turns you on and gets you off.
So, to sum up, when it comes to how to have phone sex with a PSO…when in doubt, communicate… Otherwise, let’s focus on having a good time together! Be playful and open to exploration with a sweet, kinky PSO!
Written by Vanessa Raqs
With practiced precision, her loveliest of lovely nail polish shades, “I Lilac it” by OPI, glided smoothly over her carefully shaped toenails. Her feet had been worked smooth with an emory board, soaked in the bath and moisturized with coconut oil (along with the rest of her). Those feet were looking smooth and flawless.
Fully shaved, clean and with every part of her feeling supple and pampered, Gina, was feeling more relaxed than she had all week.
She sat on her bed, wearing fuzzy, blue plaid pajama pants and a freshly laundered, white tank top. Her silky, dark blond hair was swept up into a messy bun. She had high cheek bones, a clear peaches & cream complexion and her almond-shaped hazel eyes were currently cast down, focused steadily on every stroke of the polish brush.
Gina was lean and athletic–a Pilates instructor–with high, small breasts and gently flaring hips. She was pretty and somewhat delicate looking, but her very long, elegant legs were, without a doubt, her most striking feature. When she put on a pair of high heels and went out dancing with friends, the men couldn’t keep their eyes off her legs!
Today, Sunday, was Gina’s self-pampering day. No work, no other plans or obligations. She always set Sundays aside just for herself. At 23 years old, her life was fairly uncomplicated. She’d even been seeing a great new guy–Drew–although it was still too early to be more than cautiously optimistic. He’d taken her on a couple of fun date nights so far, anyway. He’d been charming, playful and sexy…if a tad too respectful.
Gina couldn’t help hoping he’d make a move on her soon though. She needed to be fucked, badly! Her only vibrator–a pricey but well-worth-it, Lelo number–had just kicked the bucket last weekend…the day after she’d paid to replace all 4 bald tires on her little Neon. She couldn’t, in good conscience, splurge on a decent replacement until her next paycheck. Possibly not until the one after that, actually… After all, her landlord would not likely consider a need for new sex toys as a legitimate excuse for a late rent payment. The thought of asking such a favor did make her chuckle, however.
All ten of her toenails were at last all tended to. She admired her work for a moment before taking up her tablet, intent on reading emails while she waited for the polish to dry.
Several minutes past while she became absorbed in browsing online shoe sales and replying to friends. When the doorbell rang, she was startled halfway out of her own skin!
Tossing her tablet onto the quilt, she sent a quick prayer up to the OPI gods that her perfect polish job was dry enough to avoid damage, and sprinted for the front entry.
Opening the door, she was surprised to discover Drew, her suitor of late. He stood on her neatly swept front stoop, looking just slightly bashful but, as ever, relaxed and appreciative of her appearance. His face, with those rounded boy-next-door features, topped with short and tidy light brown hair, lit up with a grin when he saw her. His forest green eyes smiled too, and swept up, then down the full length of her body. His interested gaze stopped on her feet.
“Cute toes…” He murmured with a peculiar tone in his words, before returning his gaze to her own again. There was something speculative in his expression this time. Was she imagining the heat there?
“Come in! ” She said shyly, smiling brightly at him. He stepped through the door and placed a kiss on her lips, lingering longer than he had at the end of their previous date.
“You look adorable” he told her softly, his lips still pressed lightly against hers. She couldn’t stop a giddy little giggle in reply. That giggle prompted a pleased-sounding “Mmm…” from him, which made her feel warm all over.
His hands came up to brush up and down her sides, slightly lifting the tank top to reveal soft, creamy skin. His eyes danced over the reveal, appreciatively. Drew used his foot to push the door closed behind him. Then he stepped into her, causing her to take a step back towards the wall. He proceeded with another, then another…
Soon, Gina’s back was pressed firmly against the wall. Her breathing was quick and her heart raced. Oh, yes, this day was just getting better and better!
Drew had been nothing less than a perfect gentleman during each of their dates, with the exception of some playful flirting. This was the first time she had encountered this more forceful side of his personality… To call it exciting, was an understatement.
Gina managed a breathless “Bedroom is that way…” between kisses. She lifted her hand to wave at the general direction from which she had come. Being pressed up against him, she felt the rumble in his chest when he laughed in reply to her eagerness
Gina was relatively tall, but slender, with delicate features. Drew was taller by a few inches, fit and built sturdy. He made her feel petite by contrast.
It took her by surprise however, when he bent suddenly, to reach an arm behind her knees. His other arm was around her back, and he quickly lifted her into the air. She gasped but did not protest. She would do nothing to stop this. Not a chance! She needed this, dammit!
He carefully maneuvered her through her kitchen, into a short hallway, and quickly found the door to her bedroom. He playfully tossed her onto the thick quilt, earning a delighted laugh from her. Then he noticed her tablet laying, abandoned on the corner of her bed. The last thing she had been looking at, when the doorbell had chimed, still on the screen–a sexy pair of dark amethyst purple, strappy sandals, with 4-inch heels, shapely arch support, a flirty open toe, and a petite pleated bow accenting the back of the ankle strap. They were something she would love to have for salsa night at the club, with her girlfriends. But, with a price tag of $399, she could only afford to admire them.
Staring intently at the image, Drew growled “I am so buying you those…”.
She managed only to squeak “What–” before he locked his lips over hers again, kissibg her deeply. By the time he had pulled back, she’d forgotten what she was about to say and no longer cared.
He slid his hands under her tank top, then pulled it off over her head. Bent to lick and gently bite each of her tight little rosy nipples, while he loosened the drawstring on her pajama pants. They quickly joined her tank top on the bedroom floor.
It just so happened that the lacey thong panties she wore, perfectly matched the lilac purple shade of her nail polish.
Drew sat back on the bed, taking in the full effect. He grasped each of her feet and placed them flat on the bed, with her knees spread wide, so that he could admire it all–her high, firm breasts, toned tummy, long legs, the delicately sexy panties and perfectly painted toes of her pretty feet. She felt self-conscious as his eyes took her in, inch by inch. But his gaze also set her body on fire. Her tiny panties quickly became soaked!
He lifted her left foot to his lips, kissing the arch. It tickled and thrilled her, sending electricity up through the sole of her foot, to her core. He began to slowly massage her left foot, then his lips were on her big toe. He parted his lips and sucked her toe into his hot, wet mouth. His groan vibrated into her. She felt his tongue glide playfully over the pad of her toe. The sensation was so sensual, sinful and delicious… She moaned! Her head fell back onto the pillow, and he continued to massage the soft skin of her foot, as he tended to each of her toes with lips, tongue and suction.
He paid the same tribute to her right foot, before letting his incredible hands slide slowly up her ankle…her calf…her knee and her long, slender thigh…finally coming to stroke the slick, textured surface of her lace panties. All the while, he passionately sucked her toes, watching the progress of his fingertips with hooded eyes.
He nudged the drenched fabric aside and his fingers found the smooth shaven flesh of her swollen pussy. She parted her lips to release an eager gasp. He slid two fingers easily into her slippery, tight opening.
He watched her every response, as he finger-fucked her. Loved the way she arched and moaned, rock her hips to invite his fingers deeper into her. Relished the sweet way she whimpered each time he circled his thumb over her tiny clit. And he loved the way she moaned loudest, each time he accented his fingers’ movements with another another suck of her pretty toes!
When she cried out his name “Drew!” with wild desperation in her voice, he went to her. He slid her tiny, drenched, panties off of her slender legs and tossed them over his shoulder. Settling between her legs, he replaced his thumb with his lips and sucked on her clit while his fingers massaged her swollen G-spot within. Her cries came louder and more frantic. Gina’s long, elegant legs wrapped around his shoulders and her hands gripped his head, pulling him into her, nearly smothering him.
Gina realized how deliciously naughty it felt to be completely naked and exposed, while being eaten out by a man who hadn’t yet removed a a single piece of clothing.
She came spectacularly for him! Soaking his hand with a warm, wet gush, as the inner walls of her pussy spasmed and clamped around his fingers. Her sweet voice screamed out, uncontrollably with each wave of her orgasm.
When she at last fell limp against the quilt, panting and thoroughly spent, she barely whispered the words “Oh my gosh…I have never…had an orgasm…quite like that, before!”
Drew’s answering chuckle was an octave deeper than before and it rang with satisfaction, as he moved up her body to position his hips between her thighs. He leaned down to kiss her, letting her taste her own juices on his lips.
He set up then, pulling his shirt over his head and letting it sail off to land on top of her clothes. He undid his slacks and, with a few practice maneuvers, removed his pants and let them too join the growing pile on the floor.
Then, without breaking eye contact, he reached back his right hand to grasp her left foot again. He pulled it forward and was delighted to see how flexible she was! He soon held her ankle near her own left ear. She smiled comfortably up at him, saying only “Pilates” as an explanation. He smiled back, letting his fingers massage the arch of her foot again. Her gaze softened at the sensual contact. “Mmm…” she breathed.
Putting his weight onto his right elbow, so he would not have to release his grip on her foot, he reached his left hand down to grasp his cock. He was rock hard and dripping with precum! He pressed the thick mushroom head against her tight, wet opening and began to guide it slowly into her. “Fuck–” he bit out, feeling her sheath hugging his length, so hot and snug. Long, slow thrusts in and out of her, felt divine! She moaned, her eager hips meeting him thrust for thrust. She reached down and grasped his ass, digging her pretty purple fingernails into his ass. He began to fuck her harder. Turning his head to one side so that he could lick and suck on her toes while he pounded her cunt for all he was worth. She urged him on with dirty talk, sweet words and whimpers.
It wasn’t long before his balls began to tighten, and the pressure built. He was about to cum…hard!
With one more hasty kiss on her soft, panting pink lips, he pulled out of her and drew her foot towards himself. He pumped his cock with his other hand. When he came, he bellowed, shooting his load all over the sole of her perfect little foot
She felt every strike of his hot load, searing that sensitive skin. It felt…amazing.
* * * * *
A few days later, Gina found a package, addressed to her, on her front stoop. When she opened it, she discovered the exact pair of strappy sandals she’d been coveting when Drew had dropped in on Sunday. The supple, quality leather felt luxurious to her fingers as she caressed the shoes, admiring. A gift message was included in the box. It read “I want to see you wearing these, when I come to visit you, this weekend. Yours, Drew”. Heat spread through her, imagining what he might do to reward her when she did as he asked. She also wondered what it might be like to lean back against her pillows, before him, and stroke him off with her pedicured, moisturized bare feet–one on either side of his spectacular cock . Perhaps this weekend, she would find out…
© 2017-2020 Vanessa Raqs, All Rights Reserved
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Do you have a foot fetish?
Or perhaps this Erotica just turned you on, period! if you are planning a session with me, over the phone, remember mention this Foot Fetish short story specifically. I will add five free phone sex minutes to your paid session, as my way of saying thank you for reading!
Happy Halloween, all!
This is going to be a quick update , this week. Truth be told, I have been busy and I admit that I’m quite late in posting this. Many apologies!
My Halloween promotion for Twitter is wrapping up today, but it will give way to new promotions in the near future. Follow my Twitter feed @cumversewithme to be the first to know when promotions are posted.
As you have all likely noticed, I have a sexy new mascot for my website! Cartoon pinup, Vanessa, is going to continue appearing on my website, Twitter page, Blog & ads, in general and for special occasions. In fact, I have big plans for her this Christmas! She was created by the talented artist CutyDina. I highly recommend this artist’s services to those of you who want to add a fun touch to your commercial front. I am very proud to own the rights to these images. I hope you all enjoy them.
More erotica is coming soon… I am presently working on a short story for those of you with an appreciation for a good old-fashioned foot fetish! I’m having a great deal of fun writing this one!
I want to express appreciation to all of you for the great responses I’ve had with regards to my article about the girlfriend experience. Many of you have mentioned it on calls with me. I was surprised and delighted by the response!
As always, www.CumverseWithMe.com continues to develop and improve. It is my goal to make the website more appealing, accessible, and convenient to my clients. I am always open to hearing your suggestions so please don’t hesitate to use the “contact me” link, found in the menu on my main page.
One last thing…a note to my fellow PSO’s: In the coming weeks I am going to be adding links to other quality PSO pages, on my main page. To those of you who are interested in a link exchange, please contact me!
XX ~ Vanessa
Looking for special Phonesex Deals? Well, I have one for you!
During the month of October, I will be tweeting special instructions to my Twitter followers, on how to receive FIVE FREE MINUTES, in addition to their session! You must be a follower of mine @cumversewithme in order to qualify. Why? Because CumverseWithMe.com and its Twitter page are new (oh, don’t worry…I have plenty of experience to offer you! It’s just CWM that is new to the world of phone sex…not me, not by a long shot!) so it needs followers!
Starting next week, I will select a day, or two, in each week of October, to post the offer. My tweet will provide you with the details you will need in order to get your five free minutes! You don’t have to be a new customer to qualify and I will allow individual customers to take advantage of this promotion multiple times, if they wish, provided they meet the necessary requirements.
Follow me on Twitter to receive this, and future promotions! Following my BLOG (yes, this BLOG) is another good way to stay on top of things…
Need ideas on how to use your free minutes? Check out the “Specialties” link, which can be found on the main page of CumverseWithMe.com. If you are looking for a submissive to boss around, a playful phone slut, a fantastic blowjob, a sexy giggle and a sweet voice, have a fetish you wish to explore, or some other inclination… Check out what I offer and feel free also to contact me with questions! You can find a short contact form via the “CONTACT ME” link, also found on my main page. All communications are strictly confidential. Sorry… I am no longer able to accept texts. Direct messages via twitter and emails via the contact form, are definitely available though! And, of course, there is the phone.c
I am looking very forward to cumversing with you!
Hello, all! Thank you for taking the time to read this brief notice of updates at CumverseWithMe.com. To those of you who might’ve been looking forward to a new erotica post this week, only to discover a “boring” updates post, I apologize, BUT I assure you that new erotica will be posted in the near future AND this posting does contain erotica-relevant updates… .
On that note, for those of you who are fans of D&D (I’m talking about Dungeons & Dragons….not Dicks & Dildos…but don’t despair! For, in this instance, the two subjects are, in fact, intertwined!), Fantasy role-play gaming, swords and sorcery, Lord of the Rings, a Game of Thrones (you get the idea), I will soon also be posting original erotica for Naked Blades and at the Tavern of the Broken Axe forums, in the aforementioned style of fantasy, genre. You can join and look for me there, under the character name Lysandra (is anyone out there a Throne of Glass series fan?). My personal writer’s alcove, within the Writer’s Salon at the Tavern of the Broken Axe forums, is presently empty… But it will not remain so. I am working on a lusty, brothel-themed story series involving elves, nymphs, warriors, and so on…because–come on!–who doesn’t want to nail a hot, captive, elven maiden!? I invite you to join me there, at the tavern, or stay tuned for postings of the stories within my blog here. Either way, I’m very excited about writing at the Tavern forums and submitting stories to Naked Blades!
Now, onto far less interesting, but no less important, updates… some of you might have noticed that texting is no longer happening for CumverseWithMe.com (and, yes, I will be updating my voice recording sample to reflect this, very soon). Due to an unfortunate incident with my previous phone number, a new number had to be used at my site. This new number no longer allows for texting… My deepest apologies for the inconvenience! That said, I have made it easier for those wishing to get in touch with me quickly, to easily fill out a contact form from my website. If you look on my main page, the very first link in my site’s new menu is “CONTACT ME”. Please use this if you have any questions, concerns, requests or if you just want to get to know me a little better before scheduling a session with me–after all, isn’t phone sex more exciting when the person you are speaking with, becomes that much more real to you? I look forward to hearing from you!
In addition to the new”CONTACT ME” link on CumverseWithMe.com, my site’s new interactive menu also boasts links to pages including “My BLOG”, “My Gallery”, “My Schedule”, “Sessions & Tribute”, “Specialties”, “Limits & Boundaries” and, of course “Erotica” (containing links to the short stories I’ve posted in my blog, so that you can easily find what you are looking for, or follow a specific series of stories, without having to dig through my blog entries for them.). I am quite proud of the addition of this menu and its content. convenient updates regarding my website can also be tracked when you follow my Twitter feed @cumversewithme.
It is one of my goals to continue to make CumverseWithMe.com, both easier and more pleasurable to navigate.
Again, thank you for reading this “boring” notice of updates! Please take some time to visit and (hopefully) bookmark my website and to follow me on Twitter @cumversewithme to receive more immediate site updates. I look forward to cumversing with you!
Art & Beauty in the Sex Trade
Written by Vanessa Raqs
Art & Beauty in the Sex Trade
I remember watching the TV series, Firefly, when it first aired. I was fairly enamored of Inara, the “Companion” (high class prostitute/coutesan). She rented a shuttle from the space captain, Mal. When she applied to be his tenant (shown in a later episode), she assured him that he most certainly would rent it to her and at a fraction of his asking price. When he asked her why she believed so, she replied confidently that it is because she brought “a certain respectability…”.
Phèdre nó Delaunay de Montrève, courtesan of the Night Court, is a fictional character in an epic and addictive Fantasy/BDSM genre book series called Kushiel’s Dart, written by author, Jacqueline Carey. I’ve read all six novels in this series, at least three times over now. Throughout the series, Phèdre both embodies and helps to reform, the already-highly-sophisticated sex trade within her culture. The Night Court is the central focus within her D`Angeline society. Sex isn’t just socially acceptable, it is also celebrated, glorified, appreciated and beautified! The courtesans of the Night Court are highly trained, specialized professionals who represent the classiest of pastimes within the city. Trained to have impeccable manners, numerous skills, and an artful representation of themselves and their trade. You cannot read these books without coming away from it wishing that there were a place of its quality, artistry and beauty, somewhere on this planet.
Even within our real-life human history, there is room for such approach within the sex trade. For example, consider the Geisha. These Japanese courtesans were highly educated and trained to be living art in their communities. Again, they were so much more than solicitors of sexual expertise.
These three examples are meant to bring a hint of the attributes which such things as tradition, art, sophistication, education and respect, can bring to something as basic (or as complicated) as sex.
My entrance into the sex trade was a rather innocent one. I wanted to dance for an audience. I also wanted to make some money doing something I loved. I started out camming on one of the more popular sites for this service. I bellydanced! I absolutely revel in bellydancing. I would turn on my WebCam, put on my favorite blues music, come on camera wearing a skimpy but beautiful belly dance costume. And dance my heart out until my body didn’t want to move anymore! I made so very little in tips, as the men mostly wanted to pay to see my boobs (as if there weren’t already enough models providing that particular service! For free, no less!), but I still received a great deal of appreciation for what I did. The very first day that I attempted this pastime, I found a message in my inbox. A man had written me to tell me how I had made his day especially wonderful. He had watched me dance, enjoyed the blues, and sipped a glass of wine. For me, that message was the best thing I received from my experience of dancing on WebCam. It made me feel as though I had brought something beautiful and unique to others. And yes, something sexy as well!
High quality, classy entertainment, and the sex trade are a natural love-match.
I realize that the opinion I am about to present might very well open me up to some criticism. But I personally feel that the most common presentation of the sex trade, in our modern society, is a lazy one! We are lazy in our presentations of it as well as in our expectations of it. Granted, a good deal of this is due to the fact that much of the sex trade is either illegal, discouraged or frowned upon. I won’t deny that this trade is stifled. While in novels, film or rare moments in history, it has been depicted as a profession of refinement, this is seldom the case nowadays. Its existence anywhere though, tells me that we are, nonetheless, craving this higher expression of our sexuality.
I recognize that the general public view of sex and the sex trade, has in fact evolved by leaps and bounds over these past few decades. People are not only becoming more comfortable with it, but we have reached a point where it is not even uncommon for individuals to identify as something more/other than simply male or female. I personally even know a particular 13-year-old who has come to passionately refer to her/himself as “gender fluid” and “pansexual”. I have received quite an education on these labels, in fact, by this individual… Our younger generations are already feeling the need to move into new new territory, sexually, than that of the limited range of their predecessors. What’s next?
Now, imagine a world where the sex trade reaches a point of accessibility and acceptability, by which it becomes possible to even consider it a trade worthy of legitimate education. Imagine the possibilities if we could open ourselves to sex in all its artistic potential. If our society could embrace it for its beauty, it’s therapeutic qualities, and simply it’s natural and rightful place within our humanity. There is so much more to be explored in the sex trade then what we have thus far. Don’t get me wrong… As a phone sex operator I am most certainly aware of just how thoroughly certain aspects of the sex trade have been explored…but we are still neglecting so much of it. so much of it which could be seen as breathtakingly beautiful, were we to give it the chance.
Human sexuality is as diverse as the world around us. While, I agree, there are some stones that can be gladly left unturned, there are so many other wonders which we don’t begin to explore because much of modern day society shakes its finger at us and says “No, no, no… put your clothes back on!”.
I realize there is a great deal more that can be said here on all angles of this subject. More than I can express in one blog. But these are thoughts I’ve had many times over. I welcome the thoughts of others on this subject. Whether you agree with me or disagree, or have a perspective somewhere in between, or perhaps even a thought on a subject that is off to the side as it were, I would love to hear it!
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